Have you ever wondered what it’s like to live with someone who has autism?
That’s one of the questions that Cynthia Lord’s Rules tries to answer. Lord had a son with autism, and she wrote the book from the perspective of a sister with an autistic brother.

The sister is keen to point out that everyone needs rules in their lives, and her brother just isn’t able to learn the “rules” of society that everyone else is able to just pick up. She struggles, because she has to teach him every rule individually and remind him of them often, but she develops a friendship with a kid with a disability that she meets at her brother’s therapy sessions, and she learns that sometimes you need to just throw out the rules that don’t matter.

In light of having read this young-adult novel, I’d like to compile my own list of rules, to remind me of things that I might otherwise forget.

Just because the big picture has a happy ending, doesn’t mean people aren’t be struggling with the small picture.

Not everyone loves everything you love.

Most well-adjusted people don’t have a clue what the Novikov Self-consistency Principle is.

It’s okay not to care about what someone’s talking about, or even disagree, as long you still listen to what they have to say.

If you start a project, try your hardest to finish that project.

If you don’t have a deadline, you probably won’t finish that project.

It’s okay to take a break from something important to do something stupid. It might remind you of how important the first thing was.

The dishes should be washed every day.

Listening to a woman will help more than giving her advice.

If someone calls you arrogant, sincerely ask what you can do to be less arrogant. (And if you think “That’ll show them!” then you’re doing it wrong.)

What are some rules that you have for yourself?